Happy Girl may be my favourite blogger of all times. She is so honest and down-to-earth in her blogs that it’s really been a joy to get to know her over the Internet. We’d hoped to meet in person when I was in the U.S. last month but that didn’t happen. Someday soon, I hope!
Anyway, when I started CulturTwined, she mentioned that this is a little different from her reality, to which I said, NO! I think Happy Girl is exactly what CulturTwined is about for me, because while in some ways she and I are similar, in many ways she and I are so so so different. I like her blog for the very reason that it gives me a different perspective on things.
So I suggested that she and I both answer some questions usually used in pre-marital counselling. After all, pre-marital counselling is supposed to be all about getting to know your partner better and uncovering fundamental differences so that they’re talked through sooner rather than later.
Well, my experiment kind of flopped, because on most of the items I chose, it turns out Happy Girl and I are more similar than I thought! Oops. But since we went to the effort to answer the questions, I’m going to go ahead and post them here. I’ll put a few today, and the rest on Thursday, since it’s kind of a lot to take in all in one reading…
1. Do you attend a worship service on a regular basis? Why or why not?
HG: I used to attend regularly, religiously, to use the term, when my son was a child. We, our family, attended as a family until my son was about 19. At that time we were going to a Methodist church. I was becoming increasingly unhappy with the focus on social justice. I’m not a fan of distribution of wealth and entitlement programs. The church was moving more and more in that direction. I needed something different. Currently we, my husband and I, attend church about once a month. I believe in God and Jesus and salvation and heaven and hell and the Holy Spirit and Grace. I just think the mainstream Christian church is losing its way. I miss church. I hope I can find one I LOVE, but I don’t think that will happen any time soon.
KW: Sometimes. I enjoy the routine of going to church on a weekly basis, and if I am ever in one place long enough to make church friends, those relationships inevitably end up meaning a lot to me. For the last several years, though, I have not had a church to attend regularly, and I have not missed it as much as I’ve missed the friends I’ve left behind.
2. Are religious activities shared within a family, or are they an individual decision?
HG: Family. My son still attends the Methodist church on his own.
KW: Both. My Christian identity is very much something I connect with the way I was raised, the heritage from my grandparents and generations that came before. At the same time, my parents attend a different church from my brother from my grandparents from my aunts and uncles, and our interpretations of Christianity are rather varied.
3. What are the things over which you believe are worth going into debt? (Home, furniture, home improvements, car, education, vacation, art?)
HG: The only debt I have is my home. I don’t believe in going into debt, but a mortgage is pretty hard to pay off and the tax benefits are still available in the USA. Frankly, now that my house got broken in hurricane Irene, I’m wishing I was a renter. 🙁 I believe in avoiding debt. Going into debt for a vacation or furniture or clothing or art or even home improvements seems ludicrous to me.
KW: Home only, and if I could avoid that, I would. The fees involved in applying for a mortgage alone seem like such a waste! Actually, I also believe education is worth going into debt for, but I grew up in a rather anti-debt home, so the idea makes me uncomfortable even though philosophically I believe in education-as-investment.
Come back for more on Thursday!
In the meantime, would you answer these questions differently? Tell me how!